When Should I Expect My Big Break?

Oh honey, if I had a dollar for every time someone asked me, "When am I gonna get my big break?"—I wouldn't need a break, because I'd already be rolling in the cash!

Now, let’s get one thing straight (which is rare for me)—there is no such thing as a single big break. Nope. It’s not like Hollywood is just sitting there like Oprah going, “You get a career! You get a career! And YOU get a Netflix special!” No, sweetie, success in this business is like assembling IKEA furniture: frustrating, time-consuming, and occasionally makes you cry in the corner eating Swedish meatballs.

So, When Does It Happen?

Ah, the million-dollar question. Some people think they’ll get discovered at an open mic night because they did three minutes of mildly amusing jokes about their cat. Spoiler alert: You won’t. Big breaks are just tiny breaks stacked up like Jenga blocks, and if you’re lucky, the whole thing doesn’t come crashing down when you least expect it.

You wanna know when you get your big break? When you stop waiting for it. That’s right—no one’s coming to save you. There is no magical fairy godmother of comedy with a SAG-AFTRA card. You have to work. And I mean WORK, in all caps like your mom texts when she’s mad.

The “Big Break” is a Myth—But Small Breaks Are Real

Think of your career like a really good lasagna (stay with me here). You gotta have layers:

First, you start with the foundation—your talent. If you’re not funny, you’re basically a sad noodle with no sauce.

Then you add consistency. Keep showing up, keep performing, keep bombing and learning from it.

Next, connections—get to know people. Be the person others want to book, not the one they avoid in the green room.

And finally, you top it off with a little luck (a sprinkle of parmesan, if you will).

Every small win—a new joke that lands, a better gig, a podcast appearance—is a layer. Eventually, if you bake it long enough, BAM, delicious success.

The “Big Break” You’re Thinking Of? It’s Already Happening.

Some people think a big break is an overnight success, but newsflash: Even “overnight successes” have been hustling for 10-15 years. You just weren’t paying attention to them until they got famous.

So instead of sitting around waiting for that one big moment, focus on the work. Keep writing, keep performing, keep networking. Because the truth is, when your so-called “big break” comes, it won’t feel big at all—it’ll just feel like the next step.

And if all else fails? I’ll tell you to get back to work… but I’ll do it with love. 😘